At the end of each year and beginning of every New Year, most of us feel the urge to have one or more New Year resolutions. These are the lessons I learned from my unsuccessful attempts to keep up my New Year resolutions over several years.
Do you need a New Year resolution?
YES, if you want to have some fun in life and you are not one of those who has high expectation from New Year resolution (out of desperation or boredom).
NO, if everything in your life is going well or not so well as your liking.
If all is well, you don’t need to make any resolution now. You may do it when there is a need for change. Doing it during New Year or some other time of the year will make no difference.
If you are going through tough time, you are probably under a lot of pressure to do well. The chance of making too many resolutions and breaking all of them is high under the trying condition.
What resolution is best for you?
If you want to have some fun without having too high expectation from your resolution, then challenge yourself making one resolution that will bring you something that you should have last year or you will feel proud to have by the end of this year. This blog post ends here for you. And share your fun experience with us.
If you have high expectation from your resolution with everything going well in your life, then making one resolution could open more doors for you. There is a good chance that you will create a hobby out of your 10-15 min endeavor that will bring many good changes in your life.
However, if things are not going so well in life, then you are the one who need a resolution very badly. For the same reason, you may be the one who would have toughest time to keep any resolution. Therefore, you should take care not to be too ambitious while making any resolution. You need very specific resolution that will not drastically or dramatically change your lifestyle.
Five steps to consider to make a new year resolution:
1. Make a resolution that takes less than 10 min to keep everyday. You will give yourself the best chance of succeeding if it does not take too much time. It will not come in the way of other activities that are more important to do. You don’t want to be distracted in the name of New Year resolution.
2. “When” and “how often” are more important than “what”. You should give attention to your resolution at least once per day, but not more than three times which can be distracting and overwhelming. It should be done in the morning before getting busy with other activity or after you are done for day. I prefer doing it early in the morning that cut down the risk of not doing it at all because of daily pressure.
3. Have a check system that will keep you on track. Set a reminder in your watch or phone or computer or just on the wall of your bedroom or place for your resolution related activity. The reminder message should be very positive where you have your reward or picture of the reward for keeping it up. Yes, reward is important and you need a self-announced reward to motivate you.
4. Tell your friends and family about it. This is another way to set a reminder and inspire yourself as well as others to have positive impact in each other’s life. Remember the saying – “Positive habit or emotion is contagious”.
5. Have fun doing it. You must not stress yourself to keep your resolution. If it is stressful, then it is a wrong resolution. You should enjoy yourself doing it and wanting it more day by day.
A New Year resolution with a good check system that requires little attention daily will bring a lasting change in your life. My New Year resolution is “to write a 10-min summary of one good experience of each day before going to bed”.
Good luck making one or keeping the one you already have.